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    Your Team for World Class Achievement

    Simone Biles is a household name. She will have long life as a major figure in sports history. Simone is where she is, and you are where you are. What levels of accomplishment have you set for yourself? Regardless of your gifted or talented space, what can you learn from Ms. Biles's experience?


    Simone Biles

    It's not cheating to build yourself a massive and talented support team to become Number One! (photo - sbnation.com)


    I'm a classic, Michigan farmboy do-it-yourselfer. Too cheap to buy helpful services; to proud to be seen needing help of any kind. I am the embodiment of a very old notion of American self-reliance. Some folks have a sense of the romantic over the Great American Hero of Solitude, but let me tell you, that approach to gifted living has some serious drawbacks.


    For starters, regardless of your interests, you really don't know anything about them until you start learning from people who have a head start on you. The bigger the head start, the better. Sure, you can read stuff and watch these or those videos. But until you spend time with someone who can assess where you're at with respect to the larger community where you belong, you really don't know what you're missing.


    So, Simone probably got started in a school gym and showed extreme talent at a very early age. Her extraordinary capabilities probably landed her in a gym that specialized in gymnastics training, right? What happens there? You meet other people who understand the sport at a more mature level than young Simone just starting out. Those initial contacts probably changed her whole future by bringing people of higher and higher professionalism into her life.


    One supposes that her parents were committed to her success, which made them important supporters in her growth as an athlete. They committed time and money for Simone's success. They sought out higher calibre trainers,


    So without any thinking at all, we know Simone's team was composed of parental figures and who knows how many trainers. If you throw in supportive friends and teammates, you're looking at 20 or more key people contributing to this young woman's awesome success. 20 people!


    Perhaps at this point in life you like being a lone wolf doing your own gifted and talented thing. But you won't be able to compete at the professional level until you start building your team. Team leadership draws out the collaborative strengths of the people you bring together. That's not usually a natural skill for anyone. You have to learn it. Be the Boss by 12 was written explicitly for all gifted people of any age who need to learn how to build the team that can perform on the world stage. Get started with Volume One: Time to Be the Boss!


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    Thomas Meylan, Ph.D.
    CEO
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    Understand Life by 16
    Volume One:
    How Will We Look At Life?



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    Volume Two:
    Building Habits to Win



    Volume One:
    Time to Be the Boss!


    Featured Volume!

    Three Barriers that Giftedness Can Break

    Look, there isn't any single, one-size-fits-all path for gifted people to grow from childhood to adulthood. But, it appears that there is a small number of principles that suit the development of the gifted person, and they appear to cluster around the skill of breaking barriers.


    Graffiti

    My family culture created huge barriers between me and the world. Much better it would have been to teach me at an early age how to apply my gifts to some of the world's simpler needs. (photo - adi-goldstein - unsplash)


    Now, of course, in addition to what ever gifts or talents we received from nature, we all still also obtain the personality traits that anyone else gets. Some of those traits are barriers, and some of them are launching pads for greatness. So, the first barrier we can start breaking is the one built up by our own perceptions of our personal limitations. Doesn't matter whether we were born with this sense of limiting barrier, or whether our families installed it into us. The point is that we all can work through these barriers and get them out of our path to growth, happiness, and success. We'll discuss how below.


    The next barrier we can work on is the barrier between us and what we need from the world. Breaking these kinds of barriers down gives us the means to train in our gifts and talents. It gives us access to markets where we can sell our creative works, or obtain jobs that allow us well-paid use of our gifts. Just like we think our way through breaking mental barriers of self-lmitation, we can figure out how to get past people or situations that keep us from our objectives in the real world.


    Lastly, just like we have our internal barriers to personal success, the world at large is bound by barriers that keep us all from feeling safe, and being secure. Some barriers are built by dictators, and are very obvious. More subtle barriers, but no less oppresive, come about by a population's uncritical assent that bad ecomonic ideas are actually just what the country needs. There are times when people with special gifts and talents need to show up and straighten some of those things out.


    Now, the big question: How can gifted people, young or old, figure out how to break barriers and make rapid progress toward a happy and successful life? I'm glad you asked. The operative idea here is the need to figure it out. A person needs to study the barrier to find its weaknesses. Once the weaknesses are found, then you build the strategy take it apart, or knock it down, whatever works best in the situation.


    The simplest way to start is to think of these life barriers as basically the same kind of barrier as what you sometimes hit when you practice your gift or talent. There's some problem that's keeping you from getting better at it. The whole rest of the world works basically the same way when it comes to barriers: It's just a problem waiting for a bright person to solve it.


    So we've written a manual explicitly designed to help you uncover the problem, then uncover the solution, then train yourself to make the solution work. It's called Build Your Own System of Rules. By that we don't mean you can operate ethically any way you want. We mean that you can learn how discover the rules that create the barriers, which we call the S-rules. And usually once you know the S-rules, you can figure out some I-rules, that is, instructional rules that will help you break those nasty barriers down.


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    Understand Life by 16
    Volume One:
    How Will We Look At Life?



    Get Newsletter Above



    Volume Two:
    Building Habits to Win



    Volume Three:
    Build Your Own System of Rules


    Featured Volume!

    The Roots of Bullying, and Gifted Responses

    Nasty, emotion-laden, harm-threatening bullying comes directly out of the status-building tactics of our animal cousins. Most of us try our hand at dishing it out a time or two, and most of us have to suffer at least a few incidents of it over the course of our lives. That's just natural, animal wiring being expressed in all of us as human beings. Being “natural” doesn't make it right; it's just a perspective that helps us find clues for managing it.


    But then there are chronic bullies and their long-term victims. This is the problem we're going to work to stop!


    Cyberbullied Girl

    This morning on the NBC Today Show it was pointed out that before social media, a kid being bullied at school could at least find some refuge at home. Now you can carry your tormentor with you where ever you go. (photo - metroparent.com)


    Let's look back at this natural, animal wiring we all have when it comes to status-driven conflicts. The bully is looking for some kind of form of submission. The bully is trying to exert social power. Bullies use pain to do this. This pain usually is fear of some kind. They threaten physical harm or some kind of social harm, like a dreadful form of embarrassment.


    The reason this works for the bully is because for all animals, including humans, avoiding (or eliminating) pain is a person's strongest drive. Now, of course, that's bad enough from the victim's experience. But what's really ugly about so many bullies is that they aren't actually behaving badly for the sake of real social status. If they were, they'd quit once they got the status they sought. No, the problem is that regardless of how much bullying they do, there is something inside them that tells them that they just don't measure up.


    This tells us that there is an internal standard of an unknown “something” that the bully cannot achieve. Even if a person achieved the highest possible social status, like being President of the United States, they would continue to operate as a bully in any social situation.


    ...and even if we submitted to the bully, the bullying would not stop. So we truly need to find a way to take the power away from the bully. Let's think about some possibilities, and using them as starting patterns, you can invent your own ways of building personal power that automatically deflects the threats from bullies.


    • We can refuse to be a victim, but then, in our own minds, we need to make that refusal stick. After all, until we learn to control the fear that comes from being bullied, we'll be tempted to act like a deserving victim.

    • We can aim our own sense of status and self-worth at any weak spot that the bully has, and generate fear in the bully based on our status. This is putting the use of natural status struggles in our favor by generating the needed level of fear in the bully. This doesn't have to be mean or evil, but it does have to be psychologically overpowering. If this is done well, bullying stops without further danger.

    • An extremely strong, and extremely difficult tactic is to attempt to make a friend out of the bully. Not that's it's your job to fix a bully, but once in a while a good friend changes everything. Perhaps a good friendship helps the bully fulfill the status gap in their inner life.

    • We can attempt to avoid the bully, but that brings us back to the realities of the day: Unless you aren't on social media, it's hard to avoid contact.


    Ask youself what these options can offer you. Figure out if these option suggest other ideas, or even specific tactics, you can use to deal with any bullying you presently suffer with. There are no automatic switches you can throw. There aren't any easy-bake recipes. Bullying is an extremely difficult problem with very deep animal roots. Solutions for specific cases will take study and careful execution.


    One last thought: Bullying in many forms will continue throughout your life. Tactics to defuse bullying in your life now will likely be needed as you grow old. If you don't need them for your own defense, you may need them for the defense of others, perhaps even your own children someday.


    Bullying isn't explicitly covered in our ebook How Will We Look at Life?, but it does cover many other aspects of relationships. Just read little bits at a time and practice the ideas. This will help you not only do well in school, but help you figure out how to handle the crazy things that happen in your whole life. And we'll roll out more ideas as fast as we can put them together.


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    CEO
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    Yeah, 16 Year Olds Can Change the World!

    Alexander the Great won his first battles at the age of 16. He was King of Macedonia by age 20. In a time when people rarely lived past 40, he did pretty well. Or, you could say, if you intended to be a big player back then, you had to start in your early teen years. Those ancient rights of passage at age 12 weren't happy little family events. You officially became an adult member of the community.


    Woman Boxer

    A 16 year old lady from Sweden with Asperger syndrome is changing the world using English as her medium. We all need to learn from her example of social action for a vital cause.


    Most of us aren't privileged royalty like Alexander. We don't have an abundance of family resources to support the use of our gifts and talents in service of an important cause. Still, we do have our gifts: How can we use them to build both the needed resources and the program to move an important cause forward?


    Our new ebook series, Understand Life by 16, launched this week. When completed the series will provide an end-to-end guide for building your life plan by the end of your sophomore year in high school. The kick-off volume How Will We Look at Life? introduces the six main themes that will be explored:


    • The Search for Life's Hidden Rules
    • Adaptability
    • Mental Life as Trainable and Adaptable
    • Relationships
    • Money
    • Bringing Gifts and Talents to Political Life


    As you see from this plan, we have a strong ambition to help you figure out your path to happiness and success in a general, “have a happy and successful life” kind of way. But we also want to give you some ideas about empowering your life in a way that gives you resources to participate in the world's issues.


    Greta Thunberg was lucky enough to start out with a supportive family. Her broader support is grass roots, all non-corporate. Her message has been captured in books; whether they make enough to support her activities I do not know.


    Whatever her sustaining support base, one thing is clear: Ms. Thunberg is taking action. In her case, she's fighting for environmental recovery. You might be aiming your efforts at artistic creativity. Maybe you think you have a future in some form of technology. The field you enter doesn't matter so much as your taking real steps to make things happen in your life.


    What we hope to do is show you the big pieces that make up a life, and some of the ways you can work with them to make life easier, and your gift a more rewarding part of your life. If you get those two aspects of life working well, we further hope to inspire to make your difference in the world, too.


    Our ebook How Will We Look at Life? will help you get started. Just read little bits at a time and practice the ideas. This will help you not only do well in school, but help you figure out how to handle the crazy things that happen in your whole life. And we'll roll out more ideas as fast as we can put them together.


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    CEO
    Digital Clones, Inc.


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    The Secret Superpower within Every Gift and Talent

    I have advanced education and training in two fields of study that have the objective of understanding “life, the universe, and everything.” Those fields are theology and astrophysics. So when I say that every gift or talent contains the same superpower, I am not kidding. It's not that this superpower works the same way in every gift, or for every person. It's that every person has this superpower, and it's part of what makes the gift work. What makes it super is that once you spot it in your gift, you can figure out how to use it in all other parts of your life!


    Woman Boxer

    If challenges don't stop you, figure out what it is that keeps you going! There's a superpower there! (photo - diao-darius - unsplash)


    So let's try spotting it in some gifts. Have you been working on something your reall enjoy, but then hit a brick wall in your work? Maybe it was the first time you tried something that turned out to be hard to do. Was it a piece of music you couldn't quite get right? Was it a painting or digital image you just couldn't get quite right? Was it a robotic machine that just wouldn't obey an instruction?


    What did you do to break through that first, tough thing you encountered?


    What my music mentor does is he picks out four or five bars of something that's messing with him, and he plays it slower and slower and slower until he gets it right. Then he sets the metronome up at that tempo and plays it endlessly until he can play it without even thinking about it. Then he speeds up the metronome, and relearns it at that speed. He slowly keeps cranking up the metronome until he's finally playing it at the tempo where it belongs. If he really wants to overpower those bars, he keeps speeding up the metronome until he can play it at rediculous speeds, and completely masters that musical phrase.


    If your gift is in the visible arts, have you heard of the idea of a study? That's where you draw, or paint, or sculpt dozens of different versions of your subject using different techniques just to see what happens. Each version of your study teaches you a little bit more about visualizing your subject, doesn't it? Eventually, you overcome that artistic barrier.


    You know what the superpower is in both of those examples? It's the superpower of problem solving!


    As you grow up, you can expect to run into problems in every part of your life. The problems you solve while working with your gift or talent are very similar in many ways to life's problems. The tricks you use to solve problems in art, or music, or STEM might not work in exactly the same way, but they'll be close enough to help you get started on a life problem. The trick that does work the same way is this: just refuse to quit trying until you really do solve it!


    Those of you who read these blogs regularly, or who use Be the Boss by 12 to guide your work, what am I going to say now? Yes, you can take this habit from your gift or talent, and make it a habit for everything in your life. Yes, it takes practice, practice, practice...that's how you build a winning habit into a great life skill! But, look, you're already doing it...just do it every time you need it.


    To help you out with making these ideas habits, get our ebook Building Habits to Win. Just read little bits at a time and practice the ideas. This will help you not only do well in school, but help you figure out how to handle the crazy things that happen in your whole life.


    Order and Download Building Habits to Win Now


    Thomas Meylan, Ph.D.
    CEO
    Digital Clones, Inc.


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    The Key to Standing Out while Being Yourself

    Most people are kind of shy, especially around big groups of people. It's natural. Big groups of people often seem a little bit scary. But for some, unknown reason, most people seem to believe that gifted and talented kids are usually more shy than others. It's not true, but sometimes we gifted people start to believe it, too. And if we believe it too much, we try to be invisible to the rest of the people in school, or in other places where there are lots of people. That would be bad, because we have a lot to offer to all of the people around us.


    Pink Guitarist

    We all, even as grade school kids, can do our special things just to make people around us feel good. (photo - felix-koutchinski - unsplash)


    Even if we are a little bit shy, the sooner we learn to less shy, the better it is for us and the people around us. It's OK to feel shy, but it's a little bit better if we can still talk to any one we want any time we want regardless of how shy we feel.


    Many, many people in the world allow their feelings to keep them from doing good things, and fun things. Gifted and talented kids shouldn't let their feelings “tell them what to do.” We should always just decide what we want to do, and then do it as long as it's safe for us or not harmful to others.


    So, what do I mean by “standing out”? Well, it's a step or two more than just not being shy. Now, kids in school stand out for all kinds of things. Some just because they are tall. Some because they can be mean sometime. Some because they are nice and friendly people. Some because they come from a rich family.


    You can stand out by becoming known for your gift or talent. I mean, if you have some musical talent you can make ring tones for your friend's phone, just for the fun of it. Or if you know how to paint pictures with a computer you could make phone screen wallpapers for your friends, just for fun.


    Some gifted people also have a gift for helping people organize, you know, form groups that can do bigger things than just one person could do alone. I know a few gifted kids who have organized cleanup days for creeks near where they live. The funny thing is, once the kids get a group with a great idea, then they have to teach their parents how to be organized so that they can help the kids better. I think that's pretty cool. And if you're the kid leading the charge to clean up the creek, you stand out.


    You just do special, little things for people where your gift can make a difference. It could be that you help one or two people just by yourself, or you help a part of your neighborhood be a little better. If it comes from your heart, it will feel nice and normal to you...you can feel comfortable instead of shy.


    But you know what I always end up saying: “You have to practice.” So you have to practice getting over being shy. You have to get into the habit of being yourself in a way that makes you just a little bit important to the people around you. The thing that can make this easier is if you and your gifts “just be yourselves!”


    To help you out with making these ideas habits, get our ebook Building Habits to Win. Just read little bits at a time and practice the ideas. This will help you not only do well in school, but help you become a more visible part of your class during this new school year.


    Order and Download Building Habits to Win Now


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    CEO
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    Three Steps to Become a Class Leader This New School Year

    So you're gifted. So you're talented. So what? Ask yourself, “In what ways can I stand out in my class this year?” Perhaps you already stand out because of your capabilities. Perhaps you stand out for some of the more obvious reasons, like being tall. But you know, you can also choose to take a larger role in your class at school this year.


    New Group

    Things change for everyone over the summer. If the idea of being a class leader wasn't good for last year, maybe it's good for this year. (photo - mario-purisic - unsplash)


    It's not like you have to be the class president or the most popular kid in class. It's about learning now how to build respect with a great reputation. It's about learning how to be visible for positive reasons.


    So, how do you get started? The first step in learning just about anything from real life is to watch carefully what you're interested in understanding. In this case you watch how your classmates interact. You watch for who they all think is important. You watch for what they all think is important. You pay attention to these things to find the big patterns that seem to make the whole class do what it does. In the Be the Boss by 12 ebooks, we call this activity “Looking for the hidden rules” that make your class tick.


    You might ask, “What does the good doctor mean when he says, 'pattern'?” A simple pattern would be to watch for how many people talk about the latest show, or song, to drop. Does your class like some shows or songs more than others? Those could be interesting patterns. Is there a bully in your class? How many classmates are afraid of this person's actions, and what do they do? These are just easy patterns caused by obvious events or people I'm using to describe what I mean. What other patterns have you already spotted as you've been going to school these last few years?


    Now, the second step might take a little time to do, because you have to keep watching your classmates until some of the patterns start to become easier for you to spot. But once you do start spotting what you think are patterns, you have to write out what you think the hidden rule is that makes that pattern a part of your class's time together. Since this is kind of hard to do right the first time, don't be discouraged if some of your ideas don't work the first time. Just keep practicing your gifts to help you turn the patterns you see into rules that you can use.


    What comes next? The third step is to look at the patterns you see, and pick out one or two that you can relate to. Maybe you're just interested in the pattern, or maybe it relates to your giftedness. You are going to use this pattern to make yourself a little more visible within your class, like build a little bit of a good reputation as part of this pattern.


    If you are shy, you start simply by learning how to become part of a small group. Just add a little bit of your thought about the topic. If your classmates like what they hear, you can offer a little bit more. Learn how to feel for the “give and take” in simple conversations with friends.


    If you already have a pretty good group of friends at school, then practice building your reputation in that group. Learn a little more about the things that interest your group, and share them in a fun way. Get a reputation of being both fun and interesting to be around.


    One of the big boosts you can give yourself when it comes to the way your classmates see you is to make use of your giftedness to be helpful in some small way. If you're a STEM kid, sometimes some of your friends might appreciate a little help with those kinds of projects. If you have a knack for understanding other classes you can sometimes help other students with those. It's not about pushing to be helpful. You just listen for questions that pop up now and then, and offer help on the question. If your classmate wants it, they'll take it.


    When possible, turn these attempts to become more noticeable into habits that you practice everyday. Not pushy habits. Just practice being part of several small groups at school. And keep practicing, too, to notice patterns in the way groups of classmates behave in school. These patterns can be used to learn about what's important to your friends at school. If you learn more about what's important to them, you can learn how you can become more important to them, too


    To help you out with making these ideas habits, get our ebook Building Habits to Win. Just read little bits at a time and practice the ideas. This will help you not only do well in school, but help you become a more visible part of your class during this new school year.


    Order and Download Building Habits to Win Now


    Thomas Meylan, Ph.D.
    CEO
    Digital Clones, Inc.


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    How Can a Gifted Kid Pick Good Role Models?

    I want my gifted readers to change the world. Good role models are in short supply. Some of my readers should become elected officials, but I can't recommend anyone in government as a role model. Some of my readers should get into big business, but then they'd have to know how to sort good business skills from greedy motivations. I'd love my readers to revolutionize the arts, so they'd have to pick role models that have made the transition from artist or performer to business tychoon...and I'm not too sure about a lot of those guys, either.


    Soccer

    A kid's first role models are usually parents. Helping a gifted kid pick out role models that expand on those gifts is a big parenting job. (photo - jose-moreno - unsplash)


    Many parents are uncomfortable with the title Be the Boss by 12. “Boss” implies someone who is mean, ignorant, and self-centered to the point that they don't care at all about the people who work for them. They don't want their kids to turn into one of those kind of people.


    Well, I don't want their kids to turn into a rotten person, either. I want my readers to grow up happy, healthy, and ready to change the world for the better. To do that most efficiently, the people of the world are just, plain, going to have to see those great kids as The Boss.


    And those great kids are going to need to project that kind of authority to the people of the world. That's how it works! But there are a few obstacles between here and there. Let's talk some of these out.


    For example, a lot of gifted kids aren't aware of the idea of a role model, especially one that could help them really build power from their gift or talent. Many parents aren't familiar with this idea either. In fact, there are parents who don't want third party interference when it comes to raising their kids. OK, a role model doesn't have to interact directly with anyone. They can often serve just as effectively as a role model from a distance.


    Moving on, it's also often the case that many gifted kids feel that they're simply smart enough to figure it all out on their own. While in principle they might be correct, what they're often not aware of is how big “it all” actually is. A role model could save them a lot of learning time because the role model can demonstrate the habits needed to succeed and point the shorter way.


    In addition, there really aren't many solo geniuses in the world who gained world-wide acclaim without becoming part of a very progressive community of like-minded people. Real scientists learn from each other daily, continuously. Great musicians start out with great teachers, and when they learn all they can with a teacher, musicians learn from each other, peer-to-peer.


    As a gifted person grows and develops their skill sets, here's the progression of people one might naturally grow with over time:


    1. A role model — a famous person with the right characteristics that a kid should copy
    2. A teacher, mentor, advisor, or other person to help direct the development of advanced talents
    3. Professional peers.


    So, in the young years, it's a role model. How should a gifted kid pick a couple of them out? Chances are, your gifted child has already picked a few out. They have favorite famous people. If they read they probably have favorite historical figures. They have people that they want to be like.


    OK, parent, do a judicious, light handed job of vetting these figures. Remember, no one is perfect; all these role models will have flaws. How can you turn the flaws into teaching points? How can you make flaws that disqualify a kid's choice into a larger life lesson?


    The Be the Boss by 12 ebook series starts with a volume just for parents: Volume Zero: Parents' Prep. It will help you become familiar with the whole Be the Boss by 12 concept.


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    Two Kinds of Quickness that Lead to Success

    In upcoming volumes of Be the Boss by 12 we will map out all of the different ways you, as a gifted kid, can stand out as a leader if you are small. Today we are going to work through the ways you can use speed and agility to demonstrate leadership skills and gather a following.


    Soccer

    Just like in football, a leader can impress with physical speed and agility, and in making decisions with speed and agility. (photo - jeffrey-f-lin - unsplash)


    Let's start with some obvious, physical things. The big guys in class often give the impression of being leaders, whether they're actually trying to or not. Now, some of these bigger kids often have some athletic skill. They can be strong, fast, and agile. It's very often the case that the class is attracted to big, strong, and fast kids as informal leaders. This is the same process that all kinds of big animals use to spot bosses and leaders in the group.


    So, this gives us Quickness Type Number One: physical speed and agility. The good news with this is that, in fact, you don't have to be big and strong to be quick and agile. I bet you've been surprised once in a while how smaller people, whether kids or adults, can move so quickly, and so gracefully. This means that even if you are kind of small in your class, you can create a physical impression of speed, which, actually, implies a kind of power that people do respect.


    The use of speed, quickness, and agility is not the basis for being The Boss. It's just a tool for you to use to create the impression of physical power. That's what counts: Creating the impression of power. That's a very handy thing to be able to do if you can do it, or if you can learn how to do it.


    Since quickness and agility with our movements isn't quite enough, what can we add to that to create an even stronger impression of boss-like power? Like the athletes in a soccer/football game, people who can keep their eyes on the whole field, spot the teammate in scoring position, and make the instantaneous decision to pass the ball, you can be quick and agile when you make decisions with your classmates. This gives us Quickness Type Number Two: mental speed and agility to take in information, and make good decisions quickly.


    Maybe it's not 100%, but as a rule gifted people are quick-witted. Even if the topic being discussed isn't in the sweetspot of your gift or talent, you still have a mind that likely puts things together faster than most people. Sure, it might be something of a stretch for you get used to handling ideas and decisions outside of your comfort zone, but practice making those stretches whenever you run into them. Don't be shy about trying, and don't be shy about saying what you think.


    After all, shyness doesn't mark you as a leader. Speaking up in an appropriate tone of voice can. And if you've got the right ideas needed for the situation, you'll get high marks for leadership.


    Our approach in Be the Boss by 12 is based on patterns in your behaviors and the way you see things. We teach you how to watch for other people's patterns, too. This helps you figure out what people want, or what they need to hear if things are going a little strangely.


    We have an ebook that can help you discover these patterns and turn them into reliable rules for dealing with people, and learning more about them. Build Your Own System of Rules shows you where many of these patterns come from, and how you can use them all through your life to become an ever more successful grownup.


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    The Three Killer Tricks for Promoting You and Your Great Talent

    Many people consider Mr. Trump to be an unqualified man of minimal capabilities. Yet, he landed “the big job,” didn't he? How do you suppose he accomplished that? He did it by carefully building a large following through the art of self promotion. This strongly suggests that to succeed, the only skill anyone, gifted or not, needs is the ability to draw a large following to one's self. And I think that might actually be correct.


    Front Man

    Self promotion is a performance art that every gifted and talented kid needs to master. (photo - faruq-al-aqib - unsplash)


    What does this mean for us as gifted kids? It means that, for most of us, we will have to create a part for us to play when we're not at home. OK, so what do I mean by that? It means that when we're out in public, especially when we are using our gifts or telling people about them, that we think of ourselves in a special way, and that we act in a special. So, let's figure out how we need to think and act.


    The first Killer Trick is all about the way we think of ourselves. Thinking might be the hard part of promoting ourselves. Some of us might have habits of thinking of ourselves as unimportant (for any of a number of reasons). Some of us might be so concentrated on our gift or talent that we haven't thought of ourselves as having to meet and work with people ever. Regardless of where we all are starting from, let's all start shaping the way we think of ourselves with these three ideas:


    • “I have great confidence in my gifts, and in myself as a person.”
    • “It is important that the rest of the world gets to experience the things I do.”
    • “It is up to me to make sure that the world gets to know me well.”


    The second Killer Trick is smiling with confidence. Smiling is the universal ice-breaker. Even more powerful is smiling as a person who is confident in the gifts and talents that they control. Confidence of the kind where you really believe that you can make something about another person's life better. People respond well, as a rule, to a confident smile, and they will often accept your request to talk with them a little bit to get acquainted.


    The third Killer Trick is to get this new acquaintance to start talking about themselves for a little while before you start talking about the things you do. Why should you do that? It is very common among people that they think of themselves as the smartest person in the room whether it's true or not. When you get these people to talk first, they associate you with being smart, too. And even if you are young, or very young, when you start to speak to them as a young adult they will take you much more seriously.


    Once you can tell that they take you seriously at some level, then you can begin to teach them about you and the things you work on as a gifted and talented person. And if you express yourself with enthusiasm, they might become enthused, too. If you are excited about the things you do, speak about that excitement; why are you excited?


    But since we're young, we ought to keep in mind that we will often make social mistakes with people simply because we are inexperienced. We just don't have a lot of practice in meeting people and making them happy to know us. So like everybody else, we have to learn from our mistakes, and not get discouraged. Being good around people takes a lot of work for gifted people.


    Fortunately, much of what makes us gifted comes from us being quick learners. If we pay good attention to what works and doesn't work with people, we can make adjustments, just as if we were learning to play a musical instrument better, or write better computer code for an app we're working on. We will find reliable patterns in the way our relationships to other people work, and we can learn even more quickly because of the patterns we discover.


    We have an ebook that can help you discover these patterns and turn them into reliable rules for dealing with people, and learning more about them. Build Your Own System of Rules shows you where many of these patterns come from, and how you can use them all through your life to become an ever more successful grownup.


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    The Three Times You Just Gotta Ask Questions

    A lot of people in my age group were brought up with the “be seen and not heard” form of social interaction. I guess it was presumed that kids had nothing to say worth hearing, so there was no point in training them to be anything but silent. So, actually, not only didn't we learn how to interact with grownups, but we didn't even learn how to be polite! Just “silent.”


    Question Hands

    Life for gifted and talented people is all about asking good questions in order to get good information. (photo - artem-maltsev - unsplash)


    Well, you just have to be able to ask questions whenever you need information. So, now, in order to satisfy the simplest demands of manners and politeness, here's how you get started. Before you ask the question that's important to you, you have to start by asking another question, because, in fact, it's polite to ask permission to ask a question. Without disrupting any conversation that a person is already engaged in, you should ask, “May ask you a question?” And if they say, “Yes, of course,” then you go ahead and ask away. Simple as that.


    Now that the issue of manners has been satisfied, we can get to when you just have to ask your question. The most obvious time, and maybe the easiest, is when you hear someone say something that causes you to wonder about what was said. Maybe you didn't understand what was said. Maybe you wanted the person to continue talking about the topic simply because you found it interesting. Now, if you want to challenge what was said, then you have to be polite about it, and not start an argument. You might politely open your question with why you are asking. You might say (for example, if this is the case), “I was reading a blog about that, and they had a different view. Please tell me more about how you came up with your view.”


    The second kind of time that comes up for gifted and talented people is when you're working hard on something, and you just can't overcome a big problem in your work. Some gifted people are too proud to ask for help. That's going to slow them down. In almost any aspect of life, the people who succeed the most quickly are the people who can get good answers to their questions most quickly. Giftedness isn't about having all the answers before you start. It's about having capabilities that help you learn and grow more quickly than average. And learning is all about finding the right questions as soon as possible, and then getting good answers for those.


    The third, and perhaps, most important time you need to ask your question is when it's really important to you, but you think you already know what the answer will be. In times like these, our emotions are usually giving us mixed signals or bad signals. Here are some quick examples from my life.


    I wanted to ask a girl out, but thought she'd say no. Good thing I asked anyway, because she said yes.


    Eventually, I had to look for a job. It happens when you grow up. You can't go around looking for a job while you believe no on will want to hire you. Some people call that “making the decision for the other person,” when you shouldn't. You should always let the people make their own decision for real, even if sometimes it's not the decision you want. You always need to ask the question.


    It's kind of like asking for that date with the girl. If you want it, you have to ask for it. In fact, it's all kind of like sales. Why do I say that? Because during some of my jobs I've had to sell things. You can't say, “I know you won't want this, but will you buy my stuff?” You don't know what they're going to say, so don't ever make it up in your mind. Ask!


    Gifted people should stick to using questions as information gathering tools. Never guess; always ask a question. If you don't have good habits when it comes to asking questions that help you succeed, we have an ebook that helps you understand your habits, and how to fix them up if you need to. Building Habits to Win will help yo get started.


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    Finding the Special Pattern that Locks to Your Gift

    A few posts back I worked through some thoughts about boredom and giftedness. I related how my junior high and high school peers weren't bored because we found our passions. School became a backdrop with a variety of resources. I've been thinking about that ever since. Let's take another idea from Be the Boss by 12 to explore this: the attention pattern.


    Color Swirl

    Everybody's senses “click” with sights, sounds, touches, tastes and smells. What kind of patterns really get your positive attention? (photo - daniele-levis-pelusi - unsplash)


    The big, important pattern in our ebook series is the spot the boss pattern. This is the pattern of boss-like appearances and actions that we instinctively respond to when a group naturally seeks out potential leaders. We take this pattern apart, restack it, and figure out how a gifted kid can make use of the parts of the pattern to succeed in life.


    But there are many of these pre-wired patterns. I suspect, and this is ony a suspicion at this point, that attention patterns help a gifted kid find their areas of greatest specialization. In the natural wiring that creates the phenomenon we call “giftedness,” there probably also exist unique attention patterns that draw a kid to specific activities.


    I'm visually oriented, for example. Striking natural beauty from coral reefs, to the Grand Canyon and up to Hubble images of astronomical objects simply call to me.


    Some of my musical friends have completely novel descriptions for time; some I understand, some I don't. There are patterns in time that are captured by patterns of sound. The musicians play with these patterns, and reshape them, changing the way the sound works and the ear responds.


    Recently, I watched a movie about a very young girl gifted in mathematics. They did not go into the way she experienced her maths, but mathematics could arguably be considered the ultimate tool for quantifying, describing and manipulating all conceivable patterns.


    So, you're thought of as gifted, you're bored with traditional school work, and you're frustrated with life at an early age. It's a big universe out there, and since you are young, you haven't had much time to explore it's variety. And something else that might be critical (just another guess), is that as a rule, you should think of attention patterns as designed to find patterns in the real world. It's not that your brain can't find the same kinds of patterns in a virtual reality experience; it's just not what they were built to do.


    We can also flip this pattern idea around and ask, “In your thoughts, what patterns do you experience most frequently that are similar to real world experiences?” These could be important clues that help you find your most intense interests even though they haven't been triggered by experience yet.


    In many cases these attention patterns follow rules, and form habits. You can also investigate these in an effort to find your passion of giftedness. Our ebook Build Your Own System of Rules outlines the Be the Boss by 12 system for understanding both yourself and the people around you. It might prove valuable in your search for a more enjoyable life.


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