First, let's remember that we're directing Be the Boss by 12 at the gifted and talented population of grade school kids. We believed that we could find a reasonable number of gifted kids between 10 and 12 years old that could read at the high school level, like me and many of my friends at that age. The second point is a little more involved. In gross generalities, big kids naturally get a lot of strokes all through schooling that aims them toward leadership roles. So in the years between kindergarten and 12th grade, these kids get over a decade to form self-images that include the personal belief that they are the leader. If we can get bright kids to start learning about leadership in the 10-year old range, we can give them six or seven years to build the same leadership elements into their self-images.
All leaders are made. The process is simple to describe, but it does not lend itself to easy predictions. There are two sets of conditions that mesh in a variety of ways to mark a potential leader, and then bring both the leadership skills and temperament out of that individual and into the community. The first set is comprised of the child's physical, intellectual, and social capabilities. The second set is the collection of social expectations and values placed upon leaders and leader candidates. It is very rare that a society spends time explicitly discussing and discerning who is leadership material and who is not. In most cultures, communities let the unspoken/undeclared competition play out against the unseen rules embodied in the culture. These are the habits alive in the culture that test the habits forming in the young person.
In any field, success is the result of long hours of disciplined work. People looking for “magic bullets” are looking for easy living, not notable success. Well, if there ever was a place where long hours of discipline were required, it's in building habits of success in the way we think, and the way we act. One of the most important sets of habits is the set of self-perceptions that we live with and work with. Those habits literally tell us what we can, and what we can't, do. In our thoughts, these habits start with phrases like, “I can lead these people to...” or “I can accomplish this...” that are believed with complete conviction. No doubts whatsoever.
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Be the Boss by 12 is a series of ebooks designed to help any gifted and talented child grow into a successful adult. The gifted child can add the skills of leadership to other gifts and talents. Such kids can build social habits that make school a richer experience. In their futures, the powers of leadership enable the gifted child to engage future decision-makers on a peer-to-peer footing to negotiate great career paths and compensation.
Erik Lenderman: Hi folks. This is Erik Lenderman, back again with Dr. Tom Meylan, former NASA scientist and Ph.D. in astrophysics. Today we're talking about his new book, Be the Boss by 12, Volume Zero, Parents' Prep. So today we're going to talk about Chapter Six, “Building Your Own Mental Game by Building New Mental Habits.” So, Tom, if you can tell us: Parents who are raising a gifted and talented child, what are they going to learn about building mental games for building mental habits? What does that mean for a parent?
Thomas Meylan Ph.D.: Well, what we're getting at there is kind of building on the previous chapter: the system of not merely discovering habits that you embody, but how to modify them if your habits are keeping you from attaining your best and highest self. So, this is always a mental game. But what we're wanting to do is, we're wanting to transition the gifted and talented child from just kind of like “being a smart kid,” or “being a great musician,” and adding another element into this mental game of theirs, where it's like, “Yeah, I'm smart,...and...I'm the Boss.” And what we're trying to do is build this habit of having a leadership mentality.
And so that is actually a habit, this habit of the way you think of yourself. That's something that becomes the anchor for you to keep pushing through during tough times. And one of the reasons we've aimed this book for as young of a crowd as we have is so that they get six, seven, eight years of practicing on this personal image of being the boss. Because if they don't have four, five, six, seven, eight years of mental practice in seeing themselves this way, if they hit the adult world without that mental element in their makeup, in their set of habits, they're not going to be able to step into it in a natural way when they hit adult lives.
So, this whole notion of an internal mental game, the habit of the way you think about yourself, is a critical success factor, and a frequently emphasized point in the series.
Erik Lenderman: That's great, that's great. So, parents, if you guys are raising a gifted and talented kid, and you want to make sure they're prepared for their careers and being leaders in their fields, you guys really need to take a look at this chapter in particular, Chapter Six, because it's going to show the kids how to build that mental image of themselves that will help them push through challenges in their adult life, challenges when economic times change, and help them to persist in being leaders. So, click the link below to get a copy of the book, and you can actually see what you can teach your kids when they're gifted and talented in your home and you want to learn how to train them to prepare for the real world. Click the link below, and stay tuned. We have more chapters coming up. And we'll be back in just a moment.
Gifted children are not immune to harmful cultural messages about what our society expects from them based on gender. Parents and teachers are increasingly looking for antidotes to these toxic lessons. Tom's work empowers bright kids to understand themselves better in order to make the most of their passions and abilities. Jo B. Paoletti, Author of Pink and Blue: Telling the Boys from the Girls in America
The gifts will mostly take care of themselves.
Build emotional toughness
into the child's inner dialog.
Teach the child to project
the social cues of "The Boss."